Looking back over my life and the thread that weaves through my offerings in the world, I have always adopted the role of the midwife, ushering in new culture of freedom and personal empowerment.
Whether supporting the creativity and free expression of festival culture (I was on the board of Burning Man’s little European sister Nowhere for a number of years), the reclaiming of female erotic empowerment through my involvement in the burlesque industry in London, becoming an international facilitator in the realms of conscious sexuality, or my work with the menstrual cycle, I have always had a knack for being in the right time and the right place, supporting a movement to tip into more of a collective consciousness.
Image by Gina Vadana
My pathway into feminine leadership was catalysed by my past work as a dominatrix, where my intention was of creating a field of growth and healing for both myself and my clients.
This offered a rich opportunity to deepen my enquiry around our collective shadows of the victim/perpetrator, how to work with shame and personal empowerment. Curious about the phenomena of patriarchal power dynamics being played out through the dominatrix, I was curious about what power could be beyond this, and how my inherent leadership style could be influenced by my female body.
Thus began my research into the womb as a pathway into leadership, as a tool for self-care, feminine embodiment and social change.
I believe that the more we experience ourselves as ‘being’ a body, rather than ‘having’ a body, the more we come out of a ‘top down’ or ‘power-over’ relationship to life and into a sense of kinship with the world.
The more we are able to listen to our bodies, the more we are connected to our core foundational needs and natural rhythms and the less likely we are to put up with our current systems.
Living in attunement with our bodies, we are better able to nourish ourselves, regulate our nervous systems and feel our vitality, supporting us to rise up to and offer inspired action for positive change in the world.
I give thanks to my teachers, mentors, guides and sources of inspiration, which include:
Alexandra Pope & Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer (my guides at the Red School)
Susanne Brian (close friend and mentor around self-love & emotional literacy)
John Hawken (Tantra & Dark Eros, a mentor and collaborator in the past)
Andreas Demmel (systemic constellation work)
Anodea Judith (Western Psychology and Eastern Chakra Systems)
MaryAnn McCabe (my spiritual mentor since 2003)
Thomas Hübl (with whom I am currently studying Collective Traum and Healing through We Spaces)
Charles Eisenstein (one of my favourite thinkers and speakers)
Deborah Anapol (Pelvic Heart Integration)
Joseph Kramer (The founder of Sexological Bodywork)
Philip Shepherd (Favourite Embodiment ‘thinker’)
Kai Ehrhardt (Founder of the Somatic Academy, Authentic Eros, long time friend and collaborator)