Ruby May

MENTORING & FACILITATION

For a world being rewoven

I think the time has come for most of us to unlearn more than learn – 

To reconnect with the wisdom of our hearts and bodies, rather than rely on our minds.

Not to self-improve but to untangle and dismantle outdated ways of being that live within us, that keep us disconnected from our inner wisdom, and blind to our belonging to something greater.

The future of our leadership depends less on how we think and more on how we relate to ourselves, each other and the world around us.

Sessions for men

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Sessions for women

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Group work

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My approach

Everything is relational. You are not a self-contained individual, but shaped in constant interaction with others, with systems, with the world. Real change doesn’t happen in isolation.

We are not linear. We are part of the cyclical blueprint of life, made of cycles, tides, and seasons and yet living in a world in which this has largely been forgotten.

Our body is wise. The wisdom we seek is not outside of us. It lives in our bellies and our breath. Slow down enough to listen.

Nothing is taboo. Shame, rage, numbness, erotic longing, even parts that seems contradictory – welcoming them is the only way into wholeness.

We all have blind spots – ways we distort, compensate, avoid or unconsciously repeat. These are often difficult to see alone. Through relationship, we begin to recognise what has been out of view.

Softness is a rebellion. In a world that rewards speed and hardness, choosing to stay open, attuned and responsive is not weakness, it’s a different kind of strength.

Diversity is life’s intelligence in motion. Difference is not a problem to solve, but something to stay with, to feel, and to grow through. Creative tension is part of the work.

Make the invisible, visible. The unspoken, the subtle, the felt-but-not-named shapes everything. Bringing them into awareness, with care, changes what becomes possible.

Remember our humanness. In the age of AI, we have the opportunity to discover the beauty of being human and the extraordinary ways in which we can heal and grow together through our capacity to relate to one another.

Not knowing is underrated. Certainty is seductive in our world, but limited. Mystery is fertile. Learning to stay with ambiguity, confusion and the unknown opens new ways of seeing and being.

Initiation doesn’t happen in comfort. There is intelligence in difficulty, in descent, in the parts of life we would rather avoid. These places are compost for our evolution.

Life moves through polarity. The invitation is not to escape it, but to become more able to stay present, learning to hold the tension between them.

Testimonials

“Ruby May is the queen of permission. Her mischief and feisty eloquence is awakening and leading a whole generation home to intimacy, authenticity and juicy aliveness. I’d follow her anywhere.”  Jamie Catto musician, film-maker & facilitator

“I cannot even describe how I feel after this workshop.
Every part of me feels so alive.
Everything is vibrating and sparkling,
full of strange, dangerous, lovely promises”

– Luisa, participant

Ruby was amazing to work with, and developed a bespoke programme for us to trial Cycle Awareness sessions at Nesta, to see how this would impact health and well-being in the work place. We’re excited to see how this can continue to inspire a healthier and happier life and more intelligent work practices!

 

– Amy Richards, NESTA, the Innovation Foundation

“I realized yesterday how much we need each other in order to grow. Running my own private self-fuelled revolution is like trying to get to Rome in a toy car. I can’t say thank you enough”

– Susannah, participant

“Ruby May is a deeply committed, articulate and passionate teacher and facilitator. Bold and responsive, she brings a discerning intelligence to all she does.”

– Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer, Co-directors of Red School

“Nothing short of stunning in content, delivery and experience. Ruby has such a deeply heart held way of facilitating, like the air that you don’t notice keeps you alive. She radiates and is an invisible weaver.”

Lotus Kruse, leadership coach

“The level of trust and intimacy astounded me and gave me permission to explore those parts of myself that are often hidden. Not only to explore, but to celebrate them, be nourished by them. I danced with the reality of my illusions, I found joy and laughter in my vulnerability, I transformed my shame into strength. Forever grateful

– Sido, participant

“So gently and expertly guided one hardly noticed anything was happening and then all of a sudden…bam! A totally transformative experience.”

-Simon, participant

Previous Collaborators

When shadow meets shadow by Ruby May

Transcending the victim/perpetrator trap

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The activism of flirting & the risk of its demise by Ruby May

Musings from a Feminine Perspective

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The shadows of 'tribe' and belonging by Ruby May

Musings from a feminine perspective

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I think I was a temple wh*re in a previous life.... by Ruby May

Musings from a Feminine perspective

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Temples of numbness by Ruby May

Musings from a Feminine perspective

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The danger of needing safety by Ruby May

Musings from a Feminine perspective

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I use Substack to share my “musings from a Feminine perspective”. I write about how to stay sane in polarising times, tenderly reveal our personal and collective blindspots, challenge our ideas about power and may inspire you to think a little differently.