It’s not an easy path to befriend our female bodies in this world.
Ours bodies are cyclical, each day a different internal landscape, moving through different inner seasons and states of being. Each month we ‘die’ and renew ourselves. Again and again we are evolved and initiated into new ways of being.
And yet we are living in a culture that has little understanding of this.
Many of us find ourselves trying to lead, create and live from a place that asks us to override our bodies and push through. This often happens at the cost of our vitality, clarity, and sense of connection to ourselves.
But there comes a point where something no longer works.
Perhaps it shows up as burnout, disconnection or physical symptoms.
Perhaps perimenopause is knocking on your door, clearly announcing that the way you’ve been living is no longer true. Or as a deeper life threshold – a moment of descent, transition or initiation, where something in you is being asked to change.
These moments rarely come with clear instructions.
They often ask you to let go of who you thought you were, without yet knowing who you are becoming.
That’s where I come in.
This work offers a space to slow down and listen differently.
A space to come back into relationship with the body as something intelligent, responsive, alive and always speaking to us.
An invitation to come into partnership with the body, and to recognise the subtle ways we might self-abandon, through over-giving, pushing beyond limits, or relating to our energy as something to be extracted rather than tended.
A central part of this work is learning to move with the two currents that shape life – descending and ascending energies (sometimes called Yin and Yang). This asks us to reconsider the conditioning that places greater value on ascent and ‘doing’, over descent and ‘being’.
Over time, this work brings a different kind of clarity:
A sensitivity to what is true and what is not.
A deeper awareness of limits, energy and boundaries.
A growing capacity to stay with the natural movements of expansion and contraction, rather than overriding them.
A more grounded and embodied way of leading and moving through life – one that is shaped from within, rather than imposed from the outside.
My approach is:
Relational
Even if we’re exploring things you’d like to change, we let go of the need to ‘fix’ and honour that it’s by ‘being with‘ that real change is possible.
Intimate
My work centres the importance of our relationship being founded on honesty and transparency. I believe in the simplicity of shared vulnerability between humans in a safe space as a powerful healing force.
Systemic
I don’t see you as an isolated individual but part of a larger, entangled web of relationships, cycles, systems and histories that you’re held in. I see the work we do together as embodied activism, supporting a culture that respects and brings dignity to the female body.
Embodied
While the mind loves to ‘understand,’ and insight is useful, real transformation happens in the body. I want to support you to tap into and trust the wisdom that’s always available to you here.
Season-based
The cyclical blueprint is at the foundation of life and learning to experience life through this lens (I use the metaphor of inner seasons but you might use a different one, depending on where you come from) is a game changer when it comes to our cycling bodies, where we are in our life arc, creativity and much more.
Collaborative
While I’m here to guide and support you, the work we do is a collaboration between us, where you are encouraged to take responsibility for where it feels valuable to go.
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Pricing:
Single session (75 mins) : €130
Series of 6 sessions : €720
Who am I?
My path has been anything but conventional.
A self-employed creative my whole working life, often drawn to the unusual and taboo, I’ve worked in the burlesque industry in London as a designer, trained as a as sexological bodyworker and worked as a dominatrix, a sex-worker and an intimacy coach, and in the last fifteen years roamed the world facilitating workshops within the field of human connection.
I came to study the female body and her initiatory nature, following my curiosity in what a Feminine approach to leadership might be. How do I feel in connection with my power in a way that doesn’t feel performative or exhausting?
It made sense to me to look within and access the gateway of my own body. This led me to certify in Menstruality Leadership with Red School, which explores the psycho-spiritual aspects of the womb, from menarche (when we first start to bleed) through to menopause and use my own womb cycles to explore my access to a Feminine power.
Despite being a qualified yoga teacher, I realised through practicing Menstrual Cycle Awareness (tracking my cycle daily so I could discern the energies, gifts and challenges unique to each day), how disconnected from my body I actually was and the trauma I had accumulated.
What followed was years of being ‘worked’ by my cycle, learning how to honour and take care of myself in each phase, finding the gifts in my challenging pre-menstrual phase, taking a good hard look at my relationship to slowing down and in resting during my bleed and peeling away layers of conditioning around valuing doing over being.
In many ways, this journey has felt like a form of embodied activism:
Learning to honour what our bodies genuinely need within a linear, productivity-driven culture that often suppresses the wisdom of cyclical life – especially in female bodies.
Over time I have come to see my womb as one of my greatest teachers.
She has taught me how to live with the many polarities and archetypal energies that move through us. Wholeness is not about choosing one aspect of ourselves over another, but about allowing the full spectrum to exist and inform each other. We can be delicate and fierce, introverted and expressive, witch and maiden, shadow-dweller and light-bringer, wild storm and still water. These apparent opposites create the living complexity that makes us whole.
Through this work I have also come to recognise that menstrual cycle awareness and conscious menopause cultivate a set of subtle but powerful leadership capacities.
They train us in the art of deep attunement
– not only to our bodies, but to life itself. They invite us to become present to what is actually happening rather than getting lost in concepts, agendas or strategies.
They help us develop a different relationship with power: not power as performance or domination, but power as alignment with the many facets of who we are. A power that emerges when we stop trying to compensate for ourselves and instead lean more fully into our authentic nature.
This path also asks us to develop comfort with paradox and uncertainty. To hold tension between opposites. To listen for the intelligence within disturbance rather than rushing to fix or suppress it. To trust embodied forms of knowing alongside – and sometimes before – the cognitive mind.
Perhaps most importantly, this work invites us into a form of relational leadership: sensing the whole, understanding the relationships between things, and allowing ourselves to be moved by life rather than attempting to control it.
These are not only personal capacities.
They are essential skills for navigating the complex and uncertain times we are living in.
My credentials
My work is shaped by over two decades of embodied study, facilitation and spiritual inquiry, alongside the lived experience of four decades of being human. While no list can fully capture what informs my work, I remain grateful to the teachers and lineages that have shaped my understanding of body, relationship and cyclical wisdom.
My formal training includes:
– Certification in Body-Oriented Coaching (The Somatic School, ongoing)
– Certified Mediator with the Society for Mediation
– Training in Real Life Facilitation (Diane Musho Hamilton)
– Authentic Relating levels 1, 2 & Relational Leadership
– Non-violent Communication (Donal Green)
– Menstruality Leadership & Menstrual Medicine Circle Certification (Red School)
– Collective Trauma & We Spaces (Thomas Hübl)
– Sexological Bodywork (IISB)
– BSc in Psychology