Hi, I’m Ruby

I’m a British, Berlin-based facilitator, coach and creative visionary, passionate about midwifing a culture that has the courage to turn towards what it most wants to avoid.

This has been the thread running through everything I’ve done – from my early years working within the worlds of burlesque, kink, sexological bodywork and intimacy coaching, to my more recent training in mediation and conflict work. The places we find most difficult to look at – in our bodies, our relationships, our sexuality, our disagreements – are almost always the places holding the most life. My work, in all its forms, is about going there.

I wear several hats in service of this. As a facilitator with over fifteen years of experience, I support groups to build trust, navigate difficulty and harvest their collective intelligence. As an ICF accredited body-oriented coach, I work with individuals, with a particular focus on intimate relating and leadership in all its forms, helping people to align heads with bodies and hearts.

A devoted student of the Feminine, I serve as community lead for the alumni of Red School, one of the largest schools of embodied feminine spirituality worldwide. I am also the founder of Know Your Flow, a global community exploring body literacy and cyclical wisdom; The Connection Game, a card game fostering human connection in over 27 countries; and Sensing the Change, an initiative bringing together somatic practitioners and political activists to foster meaningful transformation.

Underlying all of it – whether with individuals or groups – is working with the two currents of descending and ascending energies that make up life (which you might call Yin and Yang). We live in a culture that prizes the ascent: doing, achieving, producing. But it is in the descent – in stillness, in the body and becoming deeply receptive to life – where the most transformative gold is often found. Learning to move between these two currents with grace, individually and collectively, is perhaps the defining work of our times.

In an age of increasing polarisation, I believe our capacity to stay curious – especially in the face of difference – is one of the most radical things we can cultivate. This work is not only personal but part of a wider cultural inquiry into how we live, relate and remain fully human in these times of unravelling and reweaving.