Being a man in today’s world is not easy.
You’re tired.
Tired of holding a lot.
Tired of feeling you have to be strong, capable and in control. Tired of carrying vulnerability on the inside while believing you shouldn’t let too much of it be seen.
Something in you longs to put down the armour and feel safe.
You want to be met more honestly and feel more relaxed in your own skin.
That’s where this work begins
I work with men who want to become more embodied, relationally skilled and deeply and honestly themselves. Men who are carrying responsibility – in work, in love, in leadership – and who sense that how they show up intimately and how they show up in the wider world are not separate.
Because they aren’t.
The way you meet a woman, the way you handle feedback, the way you respond to intensity, desire, uncertainty or challenge – all of this reveals something about your relationship to power, vulnerability and presence. And in a world hungry for deeper integrity, how we meet these forces matters more than ever.
Intimate relating and leadership inform one another.
This work may resonate if…
…something in the way you’ve been relating no longer works.
You may find yourself swinging between confidence and self-doubt, strength and uncertainty, longing and guardedness. Outwardly, life may look functional enough, yet something in your intimate life feels unsatisfying, as though something essential is missing, even if you can’t quite name it.
Or perhaps you are recreating certain relational dynamics and patterns without knowing how to shift them. You may be carrying a great deal internally, with few places where you can be met honestly – without being pathologised, indulged or reduced to a stereotype.
You may also be carrying questions, desires or aspects of your sexuality that feel difficult to name – parts of yourself that are charged, taboo, contradictory or wrapped in shame. Perhaps these places have been hidden, managed alone or kept at a distance for fear of what they might mean. Part of my work is to help you meet these territories with honesty, care and discernment, so that what has been split off can become more integrated, conscious and alive.
Ultimately, you may be sensing that your challenges in love, sex and relationship are not separate from the way you hold authority, navigate tension or meet life more broadly – and that something in you is ready for a more honest way forward.
In our work together, we might explore:
How power, vulnerability and intimacy interact in your relationships
The blind spots and inherited patterns shaping how you relate with women
Emotional honesty, shame and the places you might armour, collapse or overcompensate
Finding language, dignity and discernment around expressing desire
Integrating sexuality, fantasy and the parts of you that may have been hidden, split off or judged as taboo, especially darker or rawer impulses
How to stay grounded in your body when meeting intensity, uncertainty or strong emotion
Leadership as a relational practice – not performance
How to develop a steadier, more integrated presence in both love and life
What do I bring?
In a world with so much ambivalence, judgement and misunderstanding towards men, I bring a deep love and care. I see myself as an ally, a mirror, and at times, a loving challenger.
I embody both softness and precision: a capacity to listen with care and attunement, alongside a desire to help you see what you may not be able to see alone, by naming patterns and blind spots.
What I offer is not a formula, but a place of real connection, where you can lay down performance, meet yourself more honestly, and discover what becomes possible from there.
My approach is:
Relational
Even if we’re exploring things you’d like to change, we let go of the need to ‘fix’ and honour that it’s by ‘being with‘ that real change is possible.
Intimate
My work centres the importance of our relationship being founded on honesty and transparency. If appropriate, we may also work with the relational field between us in order to get clear on relational patterns and dynamics.
Systemic
I don’t see you as an isolated individual but part of a larger, entangled web of relationships, cycles, systems and histories that you’re held in.
Embodied
While the mind loves to ‘understand,’ and insight is useful, real transformation happens in the body. I want to support you to tap into and trust the wisdom that’s always available to you here.
Collaborative
While I’m here to guide and support you, the work we do is a collaboration between us, where you are encouraged to take responsibility for where it feels valuable to go.
Embracing of Taboos
There is nothing that’s taboo here. I bring years of experience in working with sexuality, kink and our shadows. The parts of you that are shamed, hidden or exiled are often the very places holding your power.
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Pricing:
Single session (75 mins) : €150
Series of 6 sessions : €800
A little more about me
I’m often described as powerful yet gentle.
Warm, grounded, playful and unafraid of depth, I bring a woman’s perspective, a sharp eye for relational dynamics, and a deep love for the men I work with.
My path has been anything but conventional.
A self-employed creative my whole working life, often drawn to the unusual and taboo, I’ve worked in the burlesque industry in London as a designer, trained as a as sexological bodyworker and worked as a dominatrix, a sex-worker and an intimacy coach, and roamed the world facilitating workshops within the field of human connection. I’ve been offering one-on-one support for men since 2010.
As well as loving men, I am a devotee to the Feminine spirit, having been initiated into the Feminine mysteries through my own body and practices. As well as my work with men, I also serve as the community lead for an international organisation centered around Feminine embodied spirituality.
