Hi, I’m Ruby

I’m a British, Berlin-based coach, facilitator and community weaver, passionate about midwifing a culture grounded in the wisdom of the body and its call to live in right relationship with the world around and within us.

After following my curiosity around the complexities of being human and completing my degree in Psychology in the UK, I became fascinated in the societal taboo of sexuality and found the emerging revival of contemporary Burlesque in London a welcome exploration of bringing dignity, humour, creativity and most importantly female empowerment into sexuality.

This became a focus of my research, creative exploration and the foundation for developing my entrepreneurial skills, as I spent several years designing, crafting, and professionally selling burlesque costumes. Seeking to deepen my understanding of working therapeutically with sexuality, I moved to Berlin in 2010 where I trained as a sexological bodyworker, starting a new chapter with many exciting doorways opening around teaching and holding transformative spaces centered around the topics of intimacy, shadow work and developing our relational skills.

It was during these early years in Berlin that I found myself drawn into the inner worlds of men – holding one-to-one spaces where sexuality, vulnerability, shame and longing could be explored without judgement. This work gave me a visceral understanding of the complexity of the human psyche, and of how much of our behaviour is shaped by what we cannot yet see or safely reveal.

Working as a dominatrix for some years also catalysed an enquiry around our relationship to power and leadership and the question of whether there is such a thing as ‘Feminine leadership’. Following the breadcrumb trail, I decided to study my own female body as a gateway under the guidance of Red School, where I trained in Menstruality Leadership, which explores the arc of a woman’s life from menarche through the years of the menstrual cycle and into menopause, from a psycho-spiritual perspective.

A large element of this is the journey of being initiated by the two currents of descending and ascending energies that make up life (which you might call Yin and Yang), how we relate to these and allow them to work us. Being cyclical beings (regardless of our gender) requires that we dismantle the conditioning we might have ingrained around the descent and ‘being’ as less valuable than the ascent and ‘doing’.

I am the founder of several projects:  Know Your Flow, an online education and membership program that connects a global network of women exploring body literacy, cycle awareness, leadership, and cultural reimagination.  Sensing the Change is an initiative that brings together somatic practitioners and political activists to foster meaningful transformation. The Game is a card game that supports human connection and which has spread joy and connection in over 27 countries around the globe and counting.

As well as my free-lance one-to-one and group work, I currently serve as the community leader for the alumni of Red School, the largest school of embodied feminine spirituality worldwide.

Across all of my work runs a deep fascination with human complexity – how we navigate polarity, where we get caught in patterns and blindspots and what becomes possible when we meet ourselves and each other with more honesty, nuance and care.

In a time that can feel increasingly polarised, I believe our capacity to stay curious – especially in the face of difference – is essential. For me, this work is not only personal, but part of a wider cultural enquiry into how we live, relate and remain human in complex times.