On slut-shaming men
I know that sexual shaming is rampant universally, but through my work I often come into contact with how women - feeling threatened by male desire - so often shame men, sometimes overtly, but often unconsciously. I know many of us have been victims to men’s desire...
The Dark Feminine
The European fairytale hag, Medusa from ancient Greece, Hel, the Germanic Goddess, the snapping vagina in Navajo culture, Ereshkigal of the Summerian Inanna myth, Kali, Lillith… Throughout our human history, we have collected myths and tales of the Dark Feminine. We...
Splish Splash
“All of the fluids in our body become moist when we are moved - we cry, we lubricate, we bleed, all of the numinous experiences of our bodies have to do with moisture. And it’s moisture that brings life to this planet.”- Jean Shinoda Bolen Recently hundreds of...
What is Wild knows how to Thrive
What a simple action, yet we seem to have forgotten it: the art of listening. Through listening, our senses can start to open to all the subtle yet powerful guidance that our earth - and what is wild - offers. We can begin to see the simple abundance that is offered,...
I only had sex for money once
I only had sex for money once. It had been a fantasy for a long time and although I skirted around the edge of the sex industry for years and have also been an outspoken advocate for sex worker rights, it only happened once. I was so curious. Would it be pleasurable?...
Reflecting and Visioning for the new year
Time to light some candles and take the time to reflect on the past year and visioning for this coming year! Here are some questions I'll be using that my dear friend Tiu De Haan suggested, maybe you want to use them too? 2015 What...
Day 21
After a peaceful few days, now in the full flow of my internal Autumn, today I awoke to a sense of deep irritability and tension within. I am acutely aware of tension in the field around me - the unspoken words, silent projections and triggers, unprocessed...
Taboo: the hidden agenda
Recently I’ve been musing over the complexity of our relationship with the taboo and what lies beyond the surface. Society’s relationship with sexuality is quite obviously permeated with taboo, more so anything that goes beyond a very narrow window of what is...
Sexual Shadow Healing
What are sexual shadows? Our sexuality comes in so many colours, shapes and forms. Many of us are turned on by things that go beyond the narrow bandwidth of what society deems as ‘normal’. Some of us are turned on by specific feelings: such as the feeling of...
Don’t call me ecosexual
First published by Ecohustler It’s true – I love nothing more than to lie cradled and suspended above the ground, thighs wrapped around the gnarled old trunk of a tree. I relish the sensation of this powerful, phallic force emerging from the ground, pressed against my...