On Interbeing
More and more in daily life, I have little moments of realising how much suffering it causes me and the world around me, to experience myself as an isolated little unit, striving for independence and success in the world. A moment of realising I am getting lost in the...
On the Shadow of Needs
While it's no doubt an important and vital movement, coming into contact with our needs, it feels important to address some of the shadowier aspects of this, that often seem to lie beyond our awareness. We have a cultural blindspot around the necessity to be connected...
Why so much focus on sex and intimacy?
What if one reason we struggle in our intimate life, is because we're wanting to get all our needs met from that one place? Perhaps the reason we put so much value, and hence so much strain on romantic and sexual relationships is because we are disconnected from the...
On using vulnerability as a marketing tool
While it can be touching to see social media used for intimate revelations, when it's connected to promoting a service or an offering, it’s still a marketing ploy, and smells of something quite twisted and manipulative, although I imagine it’s quite unconscious for...
On living in an intentional community and ‘happiness’
On living in an intentional community and 'happiness' 'Community' taps so deeply into the zeitgeist of today, promising the possibilities of connection, collaboration, togetherness and belonging that so many of us are hungry for in this world. Someone asked the other...
post #metoo musings
Women... fact: if you suppress your own sexuality, you are very likely projecting this onto others, including men. If you are not allowing yourself to be comfortable as a sexual being, if you are not at ease with your own initiator and your inner...
On the activism of flirting and the risk of its demise…
Flirting, in its potential, is not some form of 'base' or 'lower' impulse, like it's often thought of, due to our sex-negative conditioning and history of gender wars.... Flirting is a form of nourishment: when we allow ourselves to be curious about each other and for...
On ‘Conscious’ Sexuality & Trauma…
During my first professional sexuality training, I was explicitly encouraged to have no boundaries. If there was a man I didn't want to do an intimate exchange with, I was told I should work through my resistance, that my boundaries were due to my 'issues'. And so I...
On Women & Victimhood
Whenever I or others question anything about women and victimhood, there are often accusations of being misogynist, which - as someone who has devoted a good portion of my life to loving the Feminine and supporting women's empowerment - is so far from the truth I...
A different Day 14
Usually this is my time of feeling like super woman and this month I feel so far from it. I'm feeling overwhelmed and feel so much resistance in me towards my to do lists. My meditation today was that every time I walk anywhere I notice if I am pushing ahead and then...